‘Tis the season for cheerleaders. Not always the ones waving pom poms and working the crowds at football games
Take a Boomer named Dianne. A week ago she called me in a panic. Her father’s significant other had died just two days earlier. Dianne’s dad had dementia, and she was his only living relative. She’d already been riding a roller coaster of emotions in the light of the recent loss when she found an elderlaw attorney a few days later. The attorney gave Dianne my name and I found myself helping her sorting out the details that would put her dad’s life back together.
1. Step One: Finding the money for her dad. Dianne wanted to find an adult family home for Dad within an hour’s drive of her home But how to pay for it? All she had was a checkbook, and credit cards with debt. She needed a current bank statement. And her name wasn’t on the account. So she went to the bank and pleaded their case. Her dad was able to tell him this was his daughter and he wanted her to handle his money. One down.
2. Step Two: Finding a new home. With an accurate statement of assets–a bit more than Dianne had thought–and a statement of monthly income, Dianne was able to approach the adult family home that I had helped her find. She and her dad visited the home and met the residents–all men. And Dianne’s dad struck up a conversation with one of them. They liked the home. Best of all, the owner would allow him to convert to Medicaid funding after six months. The owner contacted the doctor and began arranging for admission. Two down.
3. Signing the power of attorney. That document was needed for Diane to assume responsibility for her dad’s move-in and other financial, legal and medical matters in the future. So she set an appointment with the elderlaw attorney she had talked to a few days earlier. Her dad was losing competency, but knew her and could agree in front of the lawyer that he wanted his daughter to take care of him. Three down.
What an amazing daughter! She should be named “Daughter of the Year!” Her dad will move into his new home in two days, and the whole process took eight days from start to finish. I’m so impressed and proud to have been part of her team. She is a true advocate, someone who stands in the place of another, who gives significant time, effort, and love to a person needing help.